how does a muslim girl ask a muslim brother for marriage
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Question
Asslamu Allaikum i have recently seen a brother of a good islamic nature and would like to give a marriage proposal InshAllah.
However there are a few issue
1. i do not know of the brothers family, background etc
2. this brother is very well known in the Media that is how i have come to know of him
3. i have no contact details etc
i see this brother as a pious courageous and patient human being from what i have seen through media.
i would like to know of this brother and InshAllah take things to the level of marriage InshAllah.
is it permissible for me to find out this brother's contact details?
is it permissible for me to give a proposal for marriage?
In regards to Islam how should i go about dealing with this situation InshAllah.
i have been told about doing Isthikhara and salat-ul-Hajah( i pray to Allah to forgive me if i have pronounced the names of these salaats wrong) please could you shine some more light on these salaats InshAllah.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Dear Sister,
I pray you're in good health and spirits.
It's perfectly acceptable for you to propose marriage to the brother.
It is advisable to have a mahram approach the brother on your behalf. A mahram would be your father, brother, grandfather, or uncle.
If you don't have a mahram, then you should appoint an upstanding Muslim male to be your guardian (wali) in this matter. Many sisters often ask an Imam or scholar to function in this capacity.
The reason for appointing a wali is so that you have someone to advocate for you.
When you obtain the brother's contact information, the best thing to do is to send your mahram or representative to meet the brother. If things look good, then you can go ahead and arrange to meet his family.
Performing Salat al-Istikhara (the Guidance Prayer) and Salat al-Hajah (the Prayer of Need) is a strong sunna.
Please read more about these two special prayers at:
Salat al-Istikhara (The Guidance Prayer)
And Allah knows best.
This answer was published by SunniPath and is preserved as written. Rulings can depend on circumstances; for your own situation, consult a qualified scholar.
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