insecure

I have recently married my husband, I can't control the way I feel. I'm always feeling threatened by other women around. I also feel very insecure and jealous. It's really affecting our relationship. I just feel so insecure. I know he loves me very much. I just can't stop the way I'm feeling. He feels I don't have faith in him and trust him. I really need to know how to control the way I feel. It's making me so paranoid. I love him deeply and I am always scared of losing him.

In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful

Dear Sister,

Assalamu alaikum,

I pray this message finds you well.

Have you examined what may be underlying these feelings? What are you doing with your time, besides worrying about these other women? Do you have any causes you're passionate about? What projects are you working on? What goals have you set for yourself?
How much time do you make for yourself? Do you take the time to beautify yourself for your husband?
How do you view yourself and your achievements?
Obviously, your husband married you because he found something attractive in you. Alhamdulillah, he loves you, so this, in itself, should be reassuring. Is he practicing? If he observes the proper adab with these women, then you should not worry.
Instead, you should focus on setting--and meeting--your own personal, intellectual, spiritual, and marital goals.
The only person you should be comparing yourself with is yourself. Stop worrying about these other women. Assess where you are now and where you'd like to be. Then work towards that. It might be useful to read the life stories of the Prophet's wives and the female Companions, may Allah be pleased with them. If we devoted a fraction of our time to emulating their examples, then we' d have so much to focus on that is good and positive. Focus on what's good and positive for you and your husband and leave this suspicion alone. Seek refuge in Allah from shaytan. Give your husband the trust he deserves. After all, doesn't he trust you?

And Allah knows best.