Apostate wife, mother of my children...
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Question
I would appreciate some enlightenment for my son. He is 23, he married a young lady who was not Muslim. She took shahada three month before they married in 2000. She never took on any Islamic character, attitude or conduct. They have two children age 2 and one is age 11 months. In February, it was revealed that she had an affair with another young man, denounce Islam to him and his family and told them that she was not Muslim. She left and my son kept the children. She has expressed remorse and talks about getting back with him, but she never says anything about her position on Islam. He is very confused and does not know what to do. What is it that is preventing my son to move forward with his life without this person. Could false love be that strong. Please give him some guidance.
Answer
Bismillah. False love can only be exposed in the light of true love for Allah. The reason it was easy for the apostate lady to leave Islam and for her to avoid mentioning it now is that it does not loom large in the life of your son.
Hence he is confused although the situation is clear. Unless he makes his life a clean place of prayer five times a day and a responsible Islamic lifestyle in which parents and children can grow safely, shaytans will keep visiting and his confusion will increase as well as the danger now threatening the children.
He seems not in a position to help this woman at this point but needs help himself. Therefore he should be looking for a new wife who knows the responsibilities of a Muslim mother and spouse and can help him, not one unsure whether she will not betray him and her children again.
In either case, the marriage is dissolved because of her declaration that she is no longer a Muslim.
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GF Haddad
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