Husband Says: Stay Away From Parents!
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Question
My husband does not like it when I interact with my parents and family. He says that I am married to him and his family and my duties lie towards them. Is that true? Do my parents have a right to come over to my house to visit me? Am I allowed to go and visit my parents? If he stops me, do I have to obey him?
Answer
Walaikum assalam,
If you are in the same town, it is your right to visit them (or them visit you, for a 'reasonable visit') once a week. Your husband does not have the right to stop you in this.
Note, however, that the way to deal with marital problems is not law but love: when it comes down to law, with each sticking to millimetric measurement of their rights, marriages fail, as rarely does any love and affection remain. With love, even major differences become minor.
As such, one should be aware of one's rights (such as the fact that one is not obliged to serve the husband's family members, but merely to treat them with respect), but go about ensuring them with the Qur'anic paradigm for marital success: "And He has placed love and mercy between them."
Walaikum assalam,
Faraz Rabbani.
This answer was published by SunniPath and is preserved as written. Rulings can depend on circumstances; for your own situation, consult a qualified scholar.
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