Forced into going to Pakistan by parents: what should one do?

Assalamu Alaikum,

If you do not go with them to Pakistan, what are your alternatives? Who will you stay with? If you do intend to stay with someone other than your family, it will never be the same as your own family. My advice is that, since you really don’t have a choice, go with them. Try to do well in your studies there. Since most likely you have a passport other than a Pakistani one, you can always come back later on in life when you get older. But for now, fulfill your parent’s wishes. You will find much peace in obeying your parents at this important juncture of your life.

Try to have a positive outlook on life and Insha Allah even when you don’t want to do things, you will still live a life of peace and serenity. Otherwise if you think that, “Man! I am being forced into doing something I don’t want to do”, then you will always be depressed and grumpy and you might even disobey your parents and earn Allah’s wrath.

So the best thing to do in this situation is go along with your parents and study properly at school and get a good degree and then return to whichever country you are going from. I know some students who have gone to Pakistan to become doctors so the education there must be good. Also, life is a chill there especially the night life. Eating nihari and kababs and karahi gosht till the late hours of the night will be your fondest memories when you come back, Insha Allah.

And Allah knows best,

Nazim Mangera
Chicago, USA

 

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